Self-Management of Depression

If you are human, you will have problems. Having problems means that you are normal, and solving them means you are a happy normal! While the traditional therapy approaches focus on the “why” of a problem, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) moves the focus from the “why” of a problem to “how it can be solved.” Evidence suggests that SFBT is effective for treating mild or moderate depression and has also been widely used as a life-coaching strategy (Gingerich & Eisengart, 2000; Kramer et al., 2014). Here are five questions used in SFBT that you can ask yourself to find solutions for problems that impede your goals (Grant & Greene, 2001; Simon & Berg, 1997). 1. The miracle question: The miracle question goes like this: “Suppose one night, while I am asleep, there is a miracle and the problem that I am facing is solved. However, because I am asleep, I don’t know that the miracle has already happened. When I wake up in the morning, what will be different that will tel...

Emotional intelligence has become a modern-day buzzword. Academics, self-help coaches, and management pundits have written millions of words and filled hours of airtime explaining the meaning and importance of emotional intelligence. But when it comes to enhancing this trait, one is left with the arduous task of sifting through a mountain of psychobabble to tease out pragmatic, easy-to-use, and workable strategies.  So, what is emotional intelligence? In psychological terms, it is one’s ability to engage in sophisticated information processing about one’s own and others’ emotions and the ability to use this information as a guide to thinking and behavior (Mayer et al., 2008). In plain English, it means using your emotions intentionally and intelligently to improve your well-being. Emotional intelligence increases with age and experience. Research shows that people with high emotional intelligence are likely to be more socially competent, have better quality relationships, and are v...

Achieving goals feels good – it is inherently satisfying to exercise your skills, talents, and abilities to achieve what you desire in your life (Emmons, 1996). In addition, achieving goals that are consistent with your interests and core values, i.e., meaningful goals, enhances feelings of well-being and also satisfies your basic psychological needs of experiencing competence, autonomy, and relatedness (Sheldon & Elliot, 1999). Goal attainment also enhances well-being by positively influencing other facets of your life as described below (Sheldon et al., 2002): Changes in your self-concept (e.g., you view yourself and your capabilities in a totally new way) Changes in life circumstances (e.g., you gain valuable new opportunities or a new intimate relationship) Changes in basic attitudes or philosophies regarding living, which may transform your general mood and well-being Approval from others that enhances your global assessment of yourself So, how does one choose mean...